Egg donation and Suragacy

I am so proud to learn that one of my beautiful friends from college has gotten into the selfless act of egg donation. She goes to an agency that does egg donation and Suragacy. She has gracefully offered to talk to anyone who would need more information on the topic and has a lot of contacts in the agency all over the country. Her egg donation has allowed couples to conceive through IVF if their specific issue is indentified.

If anyone would like to contact her to get information or even just to talk, she would be happy to discuss anything about the process with you:) Just shoot me an email and I will contact her for you.

Say a little prayer for her.... she is about to do an egg transfer in another state... we want NO OVULATION... until the eggs are retreived!

So proud of you girl!

Did you hear that a woman in California just gave birth the OCTUPLETS!!!

Yep, 8 babies.... I am stunned. Of course the article on MSN said that they would not discuss if tey used fertility treatments.... but I dont think any woman ovulates 8 eggs at once on her own! But I could be wrong.

SHe literally had a litter! I dont think there is one of us out there that has had to take fertility drugs that did not have that vision in thier head when they went for their first ultrasound.... I was pretty scared of high order multiples... but thank goodness God gave me two healthy babies... seperately :P

Not sure how "legit" this is, but it is worth a try... as well as some other links

I found this site about an Infertility Charity on line that can supposedly assist with treatment in some way. I wanted to post it in case anyone wanted to check it out, I apologize, I did not have time to test it myself, but if it does work - that would be GREAT!!!

http://www.free-ivf.com/contact.asp

Also some information about payment plans, loans and insurance:

Loans
http://www.capitalonehealthcarefinance.com/fertility/default.asp

http://fertility-truth.com/

Payment Options
http://www.fertilitylifelines.com/paying/alternatives/index.jsp#

http://www.arcfertility.com/infertility/what_is_infertility.html

Also - in my experience, many Reproductive offices have medicine donation programs for women to give and receive from. You can donate your unused medication if you become pregnant and other women can benefit from your kindness if they simply cannot afford the expence. I was able to donate come Clomid as well as one unused pen of Gonal F. There are of course restrictions on both ends, but I wanted to put that out there since we did not know about it for quite some time:)

A cool article about helping a friend through a miscarriage

STEP 1: Talk openly with her. Tell her you care about her and want to be there for her during this sad and lonely time. Tell her that even though you may not know exactly what she’s going through, you want to be there for her. Try not to feel awkward about this. Be willing to talk about the “hard” topics and let her express her feelings openly without criticism.

STEP 2: Don’t try to give generic advice. If you haven’t gone through this experience yourself, you really have no idea what she is feeling. Don’t assume you know and don’t quote other people by saying things like, “It will work out” or, “It’s for the best” or other common advice.

STEP 3: Be there. Even if she doesn’t want to talk or “let you in” on what’s going on inside her head, just be willing to sit with her. Go to the hospital with her if she wants you there during the procedure. Or visit her in the hospital afterward or at her home.

STEP 4: Send her notes of encouragement and little gifts. Sending flowers is a wonderful idea because most people don’t think of sending them unless a healthy baby is born. But this time, the flowers are to celebrate the mom getting through this hard time and to let her know she’s not alone.

STEP 5: Listen to verbal and nonverbal messages your friend is sending. Sometimes it’s hard to ask a friend to just sit with you, so offer to do that for your friend. Tell her that you want to just hang out with her, if she wants some company.

STEP 6: Don’t forget. Just because the process is over doesn’t mean the emotional pain is. Be sure to stay in contact with your friend in the following weeks. Call her, send her emails, notes and offer to bring her a meal to help her through the healing process.

Going back to the doc today.

Hi girls. I am feeling much better and am very hopeful that I will not need another hit of the meds or surgery. I feel strong that surgery is out because the pain has decreased which I assume means the baby is getting smaller. It feels very werid and almost wrong to try and "shrink" the baby away.... granted I know a baby cannot live in a tube... but it still feels uneasy to me. I am thankful I did not see the heartbeat or anything like that in my 3 ultrasounds this go round. To be honest... I am having trouble making sense of this. You know how you are holding a balloon and it just slips out of your hands and goes up to the sky and heavens... well, that is what I would compare this too. Except, I barely even held the balloon....

But we will see what today brings.

On another note I would like to extend condolences to one of our followers who recently suffered another miscarriage. I love you girl. Let me know if you want me to post the story on here, if not, prayers coming your way and I am so sorry for your loss.

Yesterday.....

Not sure where to start. I went to the doctor yesterday for follow up on my hedaches and also to check a pain in my right side I had had since the night before. I was sent to by OB to check what my general doc said was a cyst. So, off I went with Kaiya in tow. They asked for a urine sample and Kaiya and I walked into the room and sat down.... then the doctor walked in and said "Congrats!".... I looked at him as if he were in the wrong room, because I am on birth control. I nearly fainted. SO off to the U/S room we went to see how far along I was.... I still had not processed anything at this point. As soon as they put in the probe, I knew something was wrong.... I am certainly not a stranger to ultrasounds and I have gotten pretty good at recognising certain things. First this I noticed right away was pain from the probe, then I saw my uterus and it was compltely empty. My doc said, I bet you are too ealy and explained to him I was at least 5 weeks and I know enough that you should see a least a small black circle. So then everything got serious.... finally the doctor confirmed the baby was in my right tube and am (was?) 5 week pregnant with a baby that could not live in my tube. Thank goodness he could not detect a heartbeat, because that would have devasgted me knowing what the next step would be. We then went back to his office, me and Kaiya who was pretty scared at this point because of all the seriouness. He explained what I already knew and that they had to either shrink the baby down using a chemotherapy drug or do surgery to remove my right tube complteley. I decided to go with the Methatrexate (sp?) and lots of anti nausea drugs. Went and had another scan just to check everthing and then more instruction and a follow up appointment was scheduledfor Friday to make sure the baby had shrunk down properly and not have surgery.
An hour and 45 minutes later I left... with my 2 year old in hand asking a lot of questions and clinging to me because she knew I was scared. I went to get Cassie at my sister's where my Mom and Em were anxiously awaiting me. It was wonderful to sit and talk with them about everything. Poor Preston was at work, he is still new, so there was no way he could come, we frantically texted back and forth as everything unfolded.

So now it is today, I am feeling terrible from the medicine - complete and total respect for anyone that has to go through Chemotherapy... I had one small shot of it... that is it and I am whining. I am pretty tired, but more then anything confused. I will know what comes next as of Friday.

God works in very strange ways.... I will not pretend to understand.... but there is a reason! I am sure of it. ove to all.

Massive Blog Blackout!

I apologize for the amount of time that has past since the last post, my husband was on vacation and then in the hospital for panchreatis. All is well now, just getting back on line!! I will have more info to post soon!

Love and babydust to all:)

PS... congrats to one of my followers that recetnly became pregnant after a long wait!!! Once she is telling everyone I will get her on here.... but for now loads of sticky vibes and prayers headed her way until she gets through the first trimester!!!!